Since the day we open our eyes to the first smile of
our parents, it is profoundly instilled in our hearts that we should never say ‘No’
to anything requested to us. As we thrive in years this teaching keeps reverberating
and often influences the very choices and decisions we make during our journey.
This inability to say ‘No’ opens many doors and windows say many a fable but in
real life it sometimes can obstruct many gateways. One has to accede to a ‘not
so pleasant request’ only because we fear disappointing the other person. We make
ourselves dismal and miserable to make others cheerful. We tend to imagine that
by making them smile we are raising ourselves to a higher level and getting
close to the almighty. We foolishly elevate ourselves to being a demi-God. Giving
ourselves sorrow to give joy to the world! But is it even remotely possible?
How can we make others happy when we are broken? Only a
happy soul can share joy. Is it not better to say ‘No’ because it doesn't make
you feel good? How can one say yes to something that one doesn't quite agree
with? How can one pretend to be what one really is not? We keep doing and
saying things only with the fear of losing someone/something. But what is the
point holding on to something that can’t accept you as you are. If it is
destined it will happen anyway.
Saying ‘No’ can give ample satisfaction many a time. One
feels proud of not getting weak even to the strongest of temptations. One may
lose the object but one really finds oneself. It needs loads and loads of
courage to say ’No’ and take an honest stand. The feeling of adhering to your
life-principles is much greater than the feeling of having lost the object. You
can lift your head high and prove many things to others and more importantly to
yourself. With time the object, if it really is worth, will also respect you
for your integrity. If it doesn't, then it was never worth.
One ‘No’ makes you lose one object but it draws so
many other positive things towards you. Your self-respect, pride, confidence
and love for yourself. It is in our cultural values to not disappoint others,
but it is equally important to not disappoint ourselves first. No matter how
priced the object is in worldly terms, nothing can beat the value of your own
conscience. So get up, take a stance and learn to say ‘No’ to things you don’t agree
with. One ‘No’ can open the road to so many ‘Yes’.
Yes, it’s a ‘No’
this time !!
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